Therapy for Miscarriage, Infant Loss, IVF and Infertility
For hearts broken by reproductive loss, you don’t have to carry this alone.
in person in Santa Rosa, CA and online
Specialized, depth-oriented therapy bridging trauma healing and sacred grief work.
Hi, I’m Jessica.
I help you with the sorrow that’s turned your world upside down
Your body, mind, and spirit may be reeling inside. Whether you are navigating infertility, IVF, pregnancy or infant loss, birth trauma, or postpartum overwhelm —most women are never taught how to tend to this kind of grief. So they keep going. Functioning in the fog of it all. Hoping something will shift.
You deserve so much more than just “getting through.”
I know this terrain personally. I have walked the road of infant loss myself. It reshaped me — not only as a mother, but as a therapist. My work is rooted in lived understanding of what it means to carry love and loss at the same time.
I offer depth-oriented therapy that bridges effective trauma treatment with sacred grief work. This isn’t just coping skills. It’s real support for the overwhelm, the self-blame, the insomnia, the flashbacks — so your nervous system can settle and your heart can begin to integrate what has happened.
Together, we find meaningful anchors for your sorrow, so you don’t have to pretend it isn’t there — and so it can become part of your wholeness. You don’t have to carry it alone.
Here’s something I’ve learned: grieving with support can open the door for more life. Even joy. Even vitality. Even a deeper sense of yourself.
As you pick up the pieces, know there is room for all of you here — including your powerful, broken heart.
I welcome LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent clients.
You have come to a threshold…
The loss can feel impossible. More than you can bear. Your most tender dreams, ending so suddenly. Your baby, your child, your loved one. Your family.
Your partner may be grieving so differently than you, both of you overwhelmed, so exhausted and stressed, and the places that were once safe now feel empty and on the verge of collapse.
You need a place to bring this heartache, places to bring this pain of body, heart and mind that is so heavy. Doctors dismiss it, friends may tell you to “try again” without knowing the loneliness and darkness that you are moving through.
I want to hear your story.
Your body is so connected with your loved one, your baby. They left when you had not yet known separation from them. Your hearts beat together. Your biologies were completely intertwined, and both parents are primed to be keeping this child safe and thriving.
To move from this to accepting their death, to not tending to them, touching them, holding them, is excruciating. You might feel like you’ve lost yourself as well as them.
You deserve support for the ache, for the sleepless nights, for the anxiety that comes with this shock, this missing.
Our culture doesn’t have much guidance for this loss, but there is wisdom in the alchemy of grief. It brings us to the deepest part of ourselves, and there is gold in this darkness. You don’t need to be here alone.
What to do with the sorrow…
The road can be so long…
You have fought so hard to get here. So many injections, hormonal turmoil, ultrasounds, disappointing results, waiting in the unknown, waiting with the longing. Over and over again. It takes so much, it asks so much of your relationship, your sense of self, your day to day existence.
It’s easy to feel like your body is failing you, like everything is falling apart. And when a loss happens after so much effort and hope, it feels tremendously unfair.
The trauma is real. Your nervous system needs a place to land, to ground, to heal again. And caring for your heart deeply affects the state of your body.
Specialties
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Reproductive Loss/Trauma
I offer a safe space for the very deep process of loving and missing the child that you don’t get to hold in your arms, the pregnancy that ended too soon, the overwhelm of IVF. We will create “holdfasts” for you to anchor into grounding during this time in the dark, and find ways to befriend this place of sorrow, so you can keep loving, and living in this world. LGBTQ+ welcome.
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Grief Work
I help you feel more whole and supported as you reclaim the heart, relief and love that comes with the flow of grief. You no longer have to reject the sad parts of you that hold wisdom and depth. In our work, we honor the descent and the importance of this territory.
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Trauma Healing
Feel present, safe and grounded, able to connect with your partner, your friends, your kids, and unbound from the triggers that take over your body and mind. With Brainspotting, depth work, and the Safe and Sound Protocol, we make room for your body, heart and nervous system to find safety and connection.
TEENS
Your teen or child can find security, self-love and understanding for what they are facing, whether that is the challenging drama of middle school and high school, or an intense loss. We build trust in our sessions, and a place for them to find their voice. I support many teens with ADHD and ASD, and in the queer community.
Facing loss doesn’t mean you are lost.
I help you find ground, keep loving, and embrace your wise, broken heart.
GETTING STARTED
Email or call to set up a free 20 minute consultation on phone or video, and if we are a good fit, we book our first appointment. (fill out form below)
We will book a regular, weekly session time and create a plan for tracking and supporting your healing process, which may include telling your story, working with inner barriers, gentle trauma processing, or personalized rituals.
You find both more ground and opening in the depths, living a life that includes all parts of you, includes joy, sorrow, a sense of safety, connection to yourself and your loved ones as you walk this path and face what needs tending,
Let’s Work Together
My office is located in downtown Santa Rosa, CA and I am seeing people in person as well as virtually.
If you are ready to cross the threshold into safety, connection and wholeness, please reach out and tell me the best times to schedule a consult with you. I am happy to answer any questions you have. Thank you for reaching out, I look forward to talking with you.
Email: jessica@jessicamalmberg.com
Call: (707)758-2365