TRAUMA THERAPY FOR HEALING GRIEF AND PERINATAL LOSS
Finding wholeness, when everything has fallen apart.
in Santa Rosa, CA and online
Therapy that honors the tender ground of grief as you
face the world again.
You have come to a threshold…
The loss can feel impossible. More than you can bear. The grief is so heavy, so confusing, so all-encompassing. Your most tender dreams, ending so suddenly. Your baby, your child, your loved one.
You need a place to bring this heartache, places to bring this pain of body, heart and mind that is so heavy. Doctors dismiss it, send you home, friends may tell you to “try again” without knowing the loneliness and darkness that you are moving through.
I want to tell you that this loss is a deep journey that merits wise, solid support from many levels. This kind of loss changes us, shatters us, and builds us back differently. You deserve support, you should not have to walk this alone.
Your body is so connected with your loved one, your baby. They left when you had not yet known separation from them. Your hearts beat together. Your biologies were completely intertwined, and both parents are primed to be keeping this child safe and thriving.
To move from this to accepting their death, to not tending to them, touching them, holding them, is psychologically, soulfully, physically excruciating. You might feel like you’ve lost yourself as well as them.
You deserve support for the ache, for the sleepless nights, for the anxiety that comes with this shock, this missing.
Our culture doesn’t have much guidance for this loss, but there is wisdom in the alchemy of grief. It brings us to the deepest part of ourselves, and there is gold in this darkness. You don’t need to be here alone.
What to do with the sorrow…
The road can be so long…
You may have fought so hard to get here. Injections, ultrasounds, waiting. Over and over again. It takes so much, from your relationships, your sense of self, your day to day existence.
It’s easy to feel like your body is failing you, like everything is falling apart. And when a loss happens after so much effort and hope, it can feel tremendously unfair.
The trauma is real. Your nervous system needs a place to land, to ground, to heal again.
Hi, I’m Jessica.
I help you feel the sorrow, the love, the depths—that allow you to step into this time of life (including your broken heart.)
I support you with the pain, frustration, and shock of this life-changing time. I help you learn to see in the dark, and find steps as your world re-shapes, one breath at a time.
I’m not just going to give you some coping skills. I offer deep understanding through lived experience with my own perinatal loss, grief work to help build practices and grounded places to hold you through this journey, so you can be here. Step by step.
I offer effective trauma therapy to help you shift from the overwhelm, the blame, the insomnia, so you can be present with yourself and your loved ones in this time of mourning. I’ll tell you a secret: grieving fully opens the door for bigger presence in life. Which includes joy, it includes the missing and sorrow, it includes the wholeness of it all.
You deserve support as you pick up the pieces and wait for the new foundation of life to form. Here there is room for all of you, including your powerful, broken heart.
I welcome the LGBTQ+ community and Neurodivergent folks.
Specialties
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Perinatal Loss
I offer a safe space for the very deep process of loving and missing the child that you don’t get to hold in your arms, the pregnancy that ended too soon. We will create “holdfasts” for you to anchor into grounding during this time in the dark, and find ways to befriend this place of such loss, so you can keep loving them, and living in this new world. LGBTQ+ welcome.
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Grief Work
I help you feel more whole and supported as you reclaim the heart, relief and love that comes with the flow of grief. You no longer have to reject the sad parts of you that hold wisdom and depth. In our work, we honor the descent and the importance of this territory.
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Trauma Healing
Feel present, safe and grounded, able to connect with your partner, your friends, your kids, and unbound from the triggers that take over your body and mind. With Brainspotting, depth work, and the Safe and Sound Protocol, we make room for your body, heart and nervous system to find safety and connection.
TEENS
Your teen can find security, self-love and understanding for what they are facing, whether that is the challenging drama of middle school and high school, or an intense loss. We build trust in our sessions, and a place for them to find their voice. I support many teens with ADHD and ASD, and in the queer community.
Facing loss doesn’t mean you are lost.
I help you find ground, keep loving, and embrace your wise, broken heart.
GETTING STARTED
Email or call to set up a free 20 minute consultation on phone or video, and if we are a good fit, we book our first appointment. (fill out form below)
We will book a regular, weekly session time and create a plan for tracking and supporting your healing process, which may include telling your story, working with inner barriers, gentle trauma processing, or personalized rituals.
You find both more ground and opening in the depths, living a life that includes all parts of you, includes joy, sorrow, a sense of safety, connection to yourself and your loved ones as you walk this path and face what needs tending,
Let’s Work Together
My office is located in downtown Santa Rosa, CA and I am seeing people in person as well as virtually.
If you are ready to cross the threshold into safety, connection and wholeness, please reach out and tell me the best times to schedule a consult with you. I am happy to answer any questions you have. Thank you for reaching out, I look forward to talking with you.
Email: jessica@jessicamalmberg.com
Call: (707)758-2365