Pregnancy, Infant, Child Loss
Although friends and family may not understand it, the darkness is often the very place we need to be—to fall apart, to feel, to re-member.
What you are walking through is incredibly hard, painful and unknown. A void that feels like it stretches forever and you can’t see to the other side of it. This is the nature of such intimate, precious loss. It truly undoes you, and asks you to then build back up in a new way, with room for this child, and room for the world without them here.
Step by step, I can help you find your way through. A way to keep your child close, even as you step into a self, a life, without them in your belly or arms, but with them in your heart, informing you, and an essential part of you.
Whether your loss is through miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, TFMR, SIDS, child loss, IVF cycles or infertility, abortion grief, you deserve support and holding to name and hold all the aspects of these places. They all truly matter.
I’ve walked this path with the loss of my own child. I longed for elders to help me know what this was, to help hold the immensity of my sorrow. Over the years I have found them, and it is an honor to pass this presence, wisdom and holding on to you.
Walking the road of grief takes so much, and also offers so much. The process of grief builds the internal muscles we will need to be here, and also creates spaces that will allow joy and humor and wonder again, when the time is right.
You need help, wisdom, care to get through this dark night. You deserve support for this deep underworld path. I walk with you into this necessary realm—to help you know it, befriend it, and find the support, strongholds and dignity in this sacred work of grieving.
This loss is deep, real, and deserves time, space and support.
REACHING OUT
Here, you don’t have to be strong.
You don’t have to perform, explain, or fix anything.
This is a space where you can let it all be, your sorrow, your anger, your exhaustion, and receive support for your heart and mind.
you’re ready, I invite you to reach out.
We’ll create space to tend what’s hurting, to honor your loss, and to find a way to be here.
Learning to tend the grief creates an important path in life, helps us open to the dark beauties, the golden joys.
Child Loss
Losing a child is a particular loss, one that is deeper than deep. Our children are so close to our bodies, and our love for them is intensely bonded to all of our cells. When a child dies, our bodies and souls go into a deep state of mourning, and it can be incredibly hard to keep moving, keep living, to know how to make sense of our lives.
I am honored to help you walk through these dark days, whether it is 5 weeks or 50 years after your loss, as you do the needed work of grieving their bodily absence from this life, and learn to love them in this new relationship. Holding a loving, understanding, non-judgmental presence for you, I help you to grieve and remember, fall apart, and continue loving.